Who Pays For a First Date? And Why It Matters

You are out on a first date with a prospective paramour.  Over dinner, you enjoyed engaging conversation, and great chemistry.  But here comes the bill.  30 years ago, your server would probably have placed it squarely down in front of the man. Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/why-bad-looks-good/201709/who-pays-first-date-and-why-it-matters

What is mental accounting in Psychology?

A cognitive bias wherein people tend to mentally separate their wealth into different “money jars” that are dedicated exclusively to certain purposes. Such mental accounting can cause people to make irrational decisions that work against their own financial interests. Read more: http://www.thehindu.com/opinion/op-ed/what-is-mental-accounting-in-psychology/article19582426.ece

You’ve Got to Be Carefully Taught: How to Explain Hatred to Your Children

With world events occurring at lightning/frightening speed, adults who may be bewildered themselves, may feel at a loss to answer the questions their young ones may have about topics they see broadcast on television or hear about on the school bus. Read more: https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2017/08/29/youve-got-to-be-carefully-taught-how-to-explain-hatred-to-your-children/

Can’t Do Date Night and No Childcare? 9 Connection Builders for Couples

Having kids is a beautiful, wonderful and fulfilling adventure. But it also adds stress to your relationship. After all, extra responsibilities and resources—finite things like money and your energy—are required. Depending on what stage your kids are in, you might feel like a zombie. Read more: https://psychcentral.com/lib/cant-do-date-night-and-no-childcare-9-connection-builders-for-couples/

The Blame Game: We Love to Blame Others, But Why?

Many people argue about the role of religion in our moral lives. Some claim it is harmful, other say religion is helpful. Developed by researchers Kurt Gray and Daniel Wegner (2010), moral dyad theory is about how people think about perpetrators and victims of harm. Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/after-service/201708/the-blame-game-we-love-blame-others-why

Bad Justifications for Bad Behavior

Let’s say a professional didn’t happen to read my post (or anything else about the basics of ethics), and went on to (a) engage in unethical conduct, and (b) have a complaint filed against them to an ethics committee, supervisor, or state licensing board. Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-ethical-professor/201708/bad-justifications-bad-behavior

How to Deal When a Friend’s Success Leaves You in the Dust

I've lately done a lot of press about the friendship disruptions caused by events that seem like they should be happy times. Like most shoulds, these types of situations can easily get more complicated than they seem at first glance. "I'm happy for my friend that she finally got pregnant. Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/friendship-20/201708/how-deal-when-friends-success-leaves-you-in-the-dust

Treating Nazis: Analytic Considerations on Hate

The events and dialogue surrounding this month's march by white supremacists, KKK, skin heads and neo Nazi’s in Charlottesville have left many of us shocked by the display of such blind hatred and aggression towards whole populations of people. Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/full-living/201708/treating-nazis-analytic-considerations-hate

Why Good Kids Become White Supremacists

At kitchen tables in many communities in the US, following the Charlottesville hate rally, there were chagrined families, worrying about their sons’ fascination with the white supremacy movement.  (This movement is so heavily dominated by males that I focus only on boys in this blog. Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/paradigm-shift/201708/why-good-kids-become-white-supremacists

The Emotional Life of Single People

Do you understand the emotional life of single people? Are you thinking that single people experience more than their share of sadness and depression and loneliness, whereas people with romantic partners, especially married people, enjoy a full measure of happiness? Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/201708/the-emotional-life-single-people

5 Thoughts that are “Silent Killers” of Loving Relationships

As I wrote in my relationship book, Why Can't You Read My Mind?, toxic thoughts are often silent relationship killers of intimate, loving relationships!  Why are toxic thoughts so crippling to love? The answer is because they lead to what I call the 3D Effect (Distraction, Distance, and D Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/liking-the-child-you-love/201708/5-thoughts-are-silent-killers-loving-relationships

Money, Sex, & Secrets: Keep Them from Ending Your Relationship

Every relationship is stressful. What matters is how you DEAL with it. Couples across cultures and continents — of all races and religions, economics and demographics — experience the same human emotion when faced with relationship challenges and marriage problems. Read more: https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2017/08/26/money-sex-secrets-keep-them-from-ending-your-relationship/

How Women Really Feel about Sex

Many women find sex to be the deepest form of love and connection, and many women are very sexually oriented. While his orgasm may be quicker, hers is often more powerful and her incredible capacity for pleasure includes multiple orgasms. Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/married-and-still-doing-it/201708/how-women-really-feel-about-sex